“You will not have my hatred”: writes a man who lost his wife in the Paris attack

Antoine Leiris lost his wife in the Bataclan Concert Hall Massacre. He might have been expected to show his anger and wrath followed by this horrific incident, understandably so. But no, what he wrote for the ISIS militants is something we would have never expected.

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No, unlike most of us, he didn’t change his Facebook profile picture. Instead, he wrote this:

“Vous n’aurez pas ma haine” Vendredi soir vous avez volé la vie d’un être d’exception, l’amour de ma vie, la mère de…

Posted by Antoine Leiris on Monday, November 16, 2015


The full transcript of what her wrote is here:


“You will not have my hatred”
Friday night you stole the life of an exceptional being, the love of my life, the mother of my son, but you will not have my hatred. I do not know who you are and I do not want to know, you are dead souls. If God, for which you kill blindly made us in his image, every bullet in the body of my wife has been a wound in His heart.So no, I will not give you this gift to hate you. You have it coming, but if I respond to hatred by anger that would be giving in, to the same ignorance that made you what you are. You want I’m afraid, that I should look at my fellow citizens with a look of suspicion, that I sacrifice my freedom for security. Lost. Same player still playing.I saw her this morning. Finally, after days and nights of waiting. She was as beautiful as when she left this Friday night, as beautiful as when I fell in love with here 12 years back. Of course I am devastated by grief, I grant you this small victory, but it will be short lived. I know she will be there with us every day and we will be in this paradise of free souls that you will never have access to.We are two, my son and I, but we are stronger than all the armies in the world. I have also no more time for you, I must join Melvil, who wakes up from a nap. He is only 17 months old, he eats his lunch like every day, then we will play like every day and his whole life that little boy will affront you by being happy and free. Because no, you won’t have his hatred either.

Thanks for this, Antoine. The world needs more people to think like you.